Romantic getaways are super special, fun and exciting! Since most adult couples are busy with work, various personal responsibilities and also family duties, it’s truly an extra spectacular and memorable opportunity to make these couple trips happen.
Planning for your romantic getaways is thrilling, but it’s not really easy. There are so many things to consider and to ponder on. If you’re used to spontaneous trips, that might help you, and you wouldn’t need to spend a lot of time for travel preparations. However, if you want an outing planned in certain details and schedules, you need to allot time for properly organizing everything. What’s more, if you have many personal differences as a pair, then there are a number of matters to discuss thoroughly, so you can agree on having a happy couple trip, which you will both love!
Individual differences are one of the hindrances to many couples’ trips becoming the best trips ever. Sometimes, they are the reasons why these events get spoiled and wrecked. Having them is completely normal, yet they can become the obstacles to your dream romantic getaways. To help yourself, check out these 7 tips in preparing romantic getaways for couples with many personal differences.
1 – Talk about what you have in common.
Since the issue at hand is the existence of your differences, which often come as a hurdle to your agreement on mutual plans, use your similarities to overcome them all. Talk about what you have in common. Make a list of your shared interests and identical dislikings. This is where you will base the content of your romantic getaways. Of course, you will include those that you both appreciate and enjoy, and you will drop those that you both hate and fear.
Although conquering frights is something significant others would love to do together, there are times when someone really does not have the total confidence for that yet. You do not need to force your lover to try an extreme ride he/she cannot handle or to taste a local food he/she cannot even look at. Discuss about what will benefit and delight you equally, and pick them or from them!
2 – Decide on the kind of trip you’re going for.
There are assorted types of couple trips. Romantic getaways, even with a somewhat specific description, can vary too. Most of the time, the variation comes in when you also have diverse ideas and perspectives about these romantic getaways.
For some, they are set by the beach, with a picnic mat on top of the sandy shore, plus a bunch of delicious snacks and a bottle of red wine. Others consider exhilarating nature adventures as romantic trips; the mind-blowing rides and activities feel fulfilling and romantic for them. Some look at midnight road trips with chips and dips as romantic travels.
How about you? What is a romantic trip for you? How about for your partner? Is just anything fine? Or is there a particular sort of vacation that both of you want to achieve? You have to answer these questions, and determine your type, so that you can decide on the kind of trip you’re going for. This allows you to plan more precisely for the rare trip you’re about to have!
3 – Consider fears.
Though you want to appear tough in front of your lover, you cannot deny some fears that you have, phobias to be specific. It’s the same thing for your better half. That’s why you must highly consider each other’s fears, if any.
If your husband/wife has acrophobia or fear of heights, do not book activities that involve needing to jump off cliffs or buildings. If they have aquaphobia, do not push them to engage in extreme water sports. For people with fear of certain insects and animals, zoos and animal sanctuaries might not be ideal itineraries for your couple outing.
Set these activities aside if you know that your spouse cannot do them. If you still want to try them on your own, speak with him/her if he/she agrees. Just take note that it would feel different to do an activity alone while on a couple’s getaway.
4 – Think about being a morning person and a night owl.
Even when one of you is a morning person while the other is a night owl, there’s no stopping your compatibility if you’re meant for each other!
Include this if you can relate! When planning for your romantic getaways, creating your schedules and finalizing your bookings, set a time that will be perfect for both of you to attend to these. It should neither be too early nor too late but just right, so that you will have the brilliant energy needed for such a nice trip!
5 – Share what each of you wants to learn from this trip.
Romantic getaways must be worthwhile and rewarding to your beings as humans. Fun and relaxation are two obvious goals of such travels, however, learning is important. Traveling itself is a healthy way to grow as a person, and traveling with your spouse is a healthy way to also grow as partners in life.
Share what each of you wants to learn from this trip. Do you have bucket lists to tick off? Do you have a list of couple goals to start achieving? Besides travel goals, there are remarkable lessons and experiences you hope to bring home after this trip. You have realizations you wish to meet. Discoveries and explorations are also part of your dream. Knowledge and first-hand experience of cultures, languages and local histories that improve one’s life as a whole are treasures that travelers bring home too.
Talk about your objectives for these romantic getaways aside from having fun and taking good photos for memories. If you look at traveling with such a wholesome outlook, you will enjoy your couple trips beyond what you prepared yourself for.
6 – Discuss the travel budget and money-spending plans.
Finances are one of the root causes of lovers’ fights during trips. Due to different preferences when it comes to spending, they become an ‘issue’.
To avoid something like that, discuss the travel budget and money-spending plans beforehand. Make sure that the budget suits both of your tastes. Before booking flights, accommodation, land transportation, travel itineraries and more, talk about your money first. Decide on the range of your expected and planned trip spending. Since you spend money differently and have values and beliefs behind that, you should settle things properly.
7 – Prepare back-up travel plans and problem-solving techniques.
No trip is perfect no matter how perfectly planned it may be. Prepare back-up travel plans and problem-solving techniques in case troubles arise and changes need to be done during the trip. Your differences might become a cause of the concerns that might take place, but you can do something to resolve them.
UNITED IN DIFFERENCES
The two people in a romantic relationship are usually different from each other in many ways. That could be one of the reasons why they match each other. However, for your couple travels, you should take note of and handle these contrasts wisely, so they will not lead to disagreements and difficulties during your getaways. Be united even in your personal differences. Enjoy your noteworthy couple vacation!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Nicole Ann Pore is a writer, an events host and a voice over artist. Quality and well-researched writing is her worthwhile avenue to enlighten and delight others about things that matter. She is a daytime writer for Kims, a beachside retreat in Australia offering awesome beachside lodges like no other. Nicole graduated Cum Laude from De La Salle University Manila, Philippines with a Bachelor’s Degree in Communication Arts.